The first article I read was "Try Feedforward instead of Feedback" by Marshall Goldsmith:
I thought the focus on future changes was an interesting idea. Instead of focusing on what happened in the past, the article advocates for ideas how to do things in the future. I feel like this advice could be helpful, but it seems it could be too general. Especially with it saying the feedforward could come from anyone that, even people who don't know you. I think this may lead to people getting really generalized advice when they may just need help in a very specific way. I do agree though that it's easy for people to take feedback personally, and by focusing on future tasks, it alleviates some of that feeling. I think point 7 in the link is the biggest part. It's just uncomfortable to criticize someone's performance and it feels bad to receive it.
The second article was 'Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job"' by Alfie Kohn:
I never really though about positive reinforcement being a bad thing. I didn't think about how kids could become dependent on it, but it makes sense. If the kids are doing things because the parents are praising them for it and not because they intrinsically enjoy it, they won't continue it long term. This could lead them to not finding fulfilling hobbies and activities they want to continue into adulthood. It makes sense to talk to kids about how what they're doing is good on deeper level than just it being something you want them to do. I can see this in things like art because as kids everyone gets complemented on it, but as you get older you need to actually be good to get positive feedback, and that requires a lot of effort, so the kids may no longer want to develop their art.
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