(Simple Feedback by Trevithj)
The first article I read was "Why Rejection Hurts so Much - and What to do About It" by Guy Winch:
The main takeaway I got from this article is that the reaction people have from rejection is mostly the self depreciation people after the fact. I'm applying to medical schools to this semester and I've already been placed on waitlists, I know it's not the same as outright rejection, but it's still hard to not replay my interview over and over in my head. I agonize over every response and just keep wondering where and why I went wrong. I expect to receive many more rejections, so hopefully I develop some better coping mechanisms.
I definitely think some of the strategies discussed here would help me. Things like replacing self deprecating internal thoughts with actually helpful ones would be good, but I feel like it's difficult to not take it at least somewhat personally. I do like the advice to be more social but in the age of covid that's also difficult.
The second article I read was "How to Tame Your Inner Critic" by Joel Almeida:
My first thoughts on this article were that it was interesting that there's sort of a self fulfilling prophecy where the stress and anxiety related parts of your brain. I think it's interesting the the author proposes training your brain to be more elf congratulatory. I think that another thing to think about is why we're more likely to get stuck into a cycle of self deprecation instead of self congratulation. Is it because of societal pressure to be more humble than to be proud of your accomplishments?
Those are interesting articles you tied together—but on the other hand, excess self-congratulation instead of excess self-deprecation is also a difficult extreme state of mind to be in. The balance is hard to find, oof
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